Being Everything

I was raised to believe that as a woman you had to do everything.  My mother, worked, cleaned the house, cooked, paid the bills and raised the kids.  My father had one job, just to work.  I grew up believing that as a woman you had to do everything and look amazing while doing it all. My mother never had her own interests or hobbies, she was too busy taking care of everyone else.  My father, hunted, and fished.  I love my parents a lot, and I think they were great parents, I just think woman were expected to do more for their familes then men were.

My family is not that way, my husband and I both work full time, and both do things with the kids and chores.  My husband probably does more than I do, if Im being completely honest.  I am so blessed to have such a supportive husband.  

How do we overcome guilt when we do things for ourselves?  It’s hard to do things that are just for myself and to ask for help on occasion.  Why do I feel like I have to be the perfect mother, wife, friend etc?  I think we should all be kinder to ourselves and not expect perfection all the time. 

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Life is to short to not be Happy

 

My mother always said you can’t control what happens to you in life, however you can control how you react to it.

I have anxiety and it’s terrible at times.  It can be all consuming and suffocating.  My father has anxiety so I think I was pre-disposed to have it. My anxiety became out of control around seventeen.  In high school I was in an abusive relationship and because I had no control in that relationship and was always scared and afraid, I thought I had to control every aspect of my life after that.

This can be extremely frustrating for my husband and children.  I lived with insane irrational thoughts all the time. For instance if my husband was driving a long way, I was always worried he’d get in a wreck and die. I’d plan the funeral in my head. I know this was not healthy. Therapy was a great thing for me!

I have decide to be happy every day for a year.  I know some of you are thinking this is not realistic, I disagree. I think happiness is a choice. My life isn’t perfect, but I want to appreciate all that I have in my life, and be grateful for all the blessings I have in my life. Life is too short to not be happy!